“Today’s going to be a great day, and we’re going to be a great team.”
This is a simple phrase that has amazingly and simply changed my husband and I’s life for the past 3 weeks.
First off, I want to say that marriage is far from easy.
My husband and I have been married for only 3 years, we’ve had a lot of up and downs, and we’ve been able to work things out and still be happy.
We have two kids and they take up
a lot of our time all of our time. They’re quite a handful, and no where near easy. No kid is “easy” to handle in my book.
My husband and I thought that our life would always be to our children first. It seemed like we almost forgot about each other and mainly focused on our children. I’m not saying this was a bad thing, but we didn’t spend time together like we should have.
There is always time for your spouse, whether you have 1 or 10 kids.
We started having bad attitudes. Not towards each other. But towards other things such as work.
Every time my husband had to go to work, him and I both would get a bad attitude about it. It was especially hard for us because he worked evenings. He’d be with us during the day and then at 2 pm, he’d leave to work until 11.
He didn’t want to go. And I didn’t want him to go. We wanted to spend time together, but we both realized it would only be spent tending our 2 children.
I wanted to change our attitudes but nothing seemed to work. My husband also wanted to change his attitude. We didn’t discuss this with one another until one day, my wonderful husband came up with the simple phrase, “today’s going to be a great day, and we’re going to be a great team.”
He decided that we would say this everyday to one another.
I was skeptical at first.
Why would words change our attitudes on life?
I wasn’t as enthused as my husband was. For the first week we started saying this I would forget the phrase every morning.
He would say, “Today’s going to be a great day….”
It was my job to continue the phrase. I would look at my husband and say, what was it again?
He would tell me, and let me say it once he told me.
After a weeks worth of saying it I finally remembered this “phrase.”
I started noticing his attitude had completely changed once he started saying this. He was happy to go to work and support his family. He was happy to see me everyday. He was happy to help me take care of the kids in the morning. He was happy to cook us all breakfast. He was happy to help around the house. He was happy to run errands.
I didn’t understand, but I wanted that same change. That same happiness he was feeling.
I decided to try and tell myself that it REALLY was going to be a great day. And that my husband and I were REALLY going to be a great team.
I started to notice it was working. The kids were still hard to take care of, but we did it together. We took care of them together as a team. We enjoyed watching them learn and grow. We enjoyed having little conversations with one another. We smiled at each other. We laughed with each other. We spent time with our kids, and with each other. That was something we have lacked since we had our second child.
We started making a goal every week to better our marriage and relationship. And whatever goal it was, we would add that into our phrase.
Our phrase for this week is, “Today’s going to be a great day, and we’re going to be a great team, and we’re going to listen better to each other.”
This simple phrase has changed our marriage for the better. Our marriage wasn’t broken or bad before we started saying this phrase. We still loved each other very much and we wanted to make one another happy. But, now that we have the goal to make our day better every single day, we have realized that we’ve grown together even closer now. We understand each other better. And I want to continue to learn and understand him more.
Try saying this with your spouse just once. And really mean it. It may change your marriage like it’s changed ours. For the better!